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One size fits all? Economy seats are terrible so I have to pay more. Small cars are hell, I will never own a small sports car. I don't shop at clothing stores because my size is not there (Pants 33-36/38). I have broad shoulders so L and XL don't fit my body type (thankfully there are more brands with Tall sizes). Most people understand that fit people don't want to date overweight people, and that's that. I think a lot of the backlash comes against people straight up shaming fat girls. Like an overweight girl walks into a room, and guys immediately start making comments to each other about how they'd never date her, completely unprovoked. This is a genuine list of criteria for potential matches my male friend created. Cook: Yes (A bit of experience at least. Career: Work/Business. Financial: Independent, and can.

This is such a huge problem in the trans community. Especially the toxicity towards cis men. I want to be a fucking cis male and it's hella toxic to every other trans guy who does want to be a cis male. I'm so fucking sick of being treated as 'better than a cis male' or a 'man lite'.

I'm a young, fit and mostly well kept and happy going guy from the UK. I think being born in the time I was maybe was just unlucky in some ways - being what should be considered as my prime years as a man among many grown adults, in their 30/40's, turning out to just be a complete shit-show. I'm a young, fit and mostly well kept and happy going guy from the UK. I think being born in the time I was maybe was just unlucky in some ways - being what should be considered as my prime years as a man among many grown adults, in their 30/40's, turning out to just be a complete shit-show.

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I keep seeing this shit over and over again in the trans community. How many fucking times do I literally have to tell you to stfu and that it makes ME UNCOMFORTABLE and it invalidates ME AS A MALE.

I understand many of us have trauma against cis men (I apparently don't.. since my abusers were mainly cis women and trans women) But I do not fucking constantly shit on trans women or cis women. It's not okay to threaten cis men or enforce violent behaviors. Ya I literally had a discussion with a lot of trans women who wanted to chop off cis men's dicks. IT'S NOT FUCKING OKAY LMAO WTF.

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I'm venting here so this will sound like a vent but.. the context of this conversation originally started when I was discussing of the possibility that I may never have phallo. So.. I guess telling me that you'll chop of a cis man's penis will make me happy? That chopping off multiple men's penises will end world hunger and make everyone's lives better. That discriminating against white cis men or privileged cis men is supposed to make me feel better. I understand you hate cis men.. the trauma they caused you but I don't like to generalize the entire population like that.

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Even though my rapists were both a trans woman and cis woman.. I also don't generalize every trans woman or cis woman to be the same as them. I'm not telling you to simply get over your trauma.. i'm just letting you to know it's not okay to be so toxic or violent towards cis men. And again this type of behavior is especially toxic towards trans men who are pre op.

I fucking HATE being seen as a man lite.

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And uh this may be my own personal opinion.... but i'd rather you treat me the same as you would treat a cis male than be treated as a man lite.

Can i also say for the record that my trauma and experience with feminity or anything remotely feminine doesn't mean I'm a being misogynistic or an anti feminist.. It means it causes my dysphoria and I sure as hell don't want to be associated with it.. So me trying to you know be supportive of cis men (regardless of race) does not mean I'm being misogynistic..

THANKS FOR COMING TO MY TED TALK. MY FUCKING SHOULDER HURTS. HHHN

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